Some of the most influential conversations in my life have come about over a cup of coffee and some of my best friends and the best advice has been given over pumpkin spice lattes and Starbucks’ cold brews. The other day on an impromptu coffee date, I was grateful, among many things, for the concern from a friend for my lack of blogging presence. More so than general worry for my well being, it was nice to know someone was listening and shared with me in my words and growth– to which inspired this post.
We went on to discuss time and how much of our own time we fill up with things that don’t truly set our hearts on fire, things that aren’t right for us or have already served their purpose in our lives. Whether it be a job, a relationship or even a hobby.
There are many things in this life that are out of our control, but how we nourish our soul and the energy that we choose to give to particular areas of our lives is completely on us. I think that sometimes we are just simply too scared of change or the “what if’s” that we struggle to move on or redirect our paths.
For me personally, I have a hard time moving forward without understanding why he/she/it crossed my path, why I was given this obstacle or why things didn’t fall into a desired place. However, as I continue to grow, especially in my faith, I am time and time again reminded that sometimes someone, or something’s purpose in our lives may not enlighten us in a way that we may have hoped for when we hope for it to.
“…You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust the dots will somehow connect your future. You have to trust in something– your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.” -Steve Jobs (Thank you, Lisa)
It does us no good to dwell on things, past, present or future, to stay stuck searching for answers that aren’t meant to be delivered to us yet (or maybe, ever). It isn’t fair to sacrifice our present happiness waiting, wishing, hoping for something different. So make a change, take a leap of faith or simply choose to walk away. Create a life filled with things and people that you are passionate about and that have a way of filling up your “cup” when it temporarily feels empty. This life, as crazy and as beautiful as it may be, is yours and within, you hold the power to shape it in any way that you please.